Here’s the truth: time does not heal all wounds.

When people go through painful experiences, sometimes the pain is so deep, it gets stuck. When the pain gets stuck, it shows up in the present in all sorts of ways, especially in important relationships. Here’s a few ways trauma, hurt, and loss can show up in your relationship:

• Feeling disconnected from yourself and the people around you (dissociation)

• Perceiving disconnection or conflict as danger causing a fight/flight/freeze/submit response

• Easily overwhelmed with emotion

• Intense fear of abandonment or rejection

• Struggling to trust, need, or depend on your partner

• Shame (“I’m not good enough,” “I’m bad,” “I’m not safe,” “I’m out of control,” “I’m a failure.”)

• People-pleasing

• co-dependent behaviors (disowning your own needs to tend to others)

• Perfectionism

Here’s another truth: Healing can happen.

My Therapeutic Approach: I work from an evidence-based couples therapy approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT/EFCT). With my advanced training in EFT, training in EMDR, and IFS-informed lens, you can show up exactly as you are right now. We’ll focus on creating regulation and safety in your relationship.

Trauma-informed couples therapy offers a safe space to understand how painful experiences, betrayal, and loss affect the way you connect, communicate, and respond to one another. Together, we’ll gently explore patterns shaped by the past, build trust, and create new ways of relating that foster security, closeness, and healing. This approach honors each partner’s story while helping you move forward with compassion and resilience.